Today I want to briefly share my thoughts on two emotions that erode your relationship with your spouse. They are Anger and Resentment. The reason for this is simple: everyone get's angry, but when they don't resolve it, let it go and move on, resentment develops. At this point, the beginnings of a serious problem are starting to develop....like a weed, resentment can take over your relationship. So what is the answer here? Learning to deal with your anger quickly, and in a positive way to keep resentment from taking root.
A great place to start is to recognize that most anger in relationships is really just a by-product of the other person feeling hurt. We often use anger to mask that emotion. The tough thing about this is that if we really just expressed our true emotion of hurt, our spouse would probably be able to respond to it much better than they respond to anger.
So what can you do?
1. The next time you are angry, seek to understand the primary emotion behind the anger, and instead, express that.
2. The next time your spouse is angry try and figure out what it it that they may be hurt about and try to soothe those feelings.
3. Learn more about how you can work on your marriage with the Save My Marriage Today program. You will learn even more valuable insights than this, which will make significant changes in your marriage. It's a great program.
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