If your marriage is in a state of turmoil, and unhappiness seems to be the overriding feeling, then you need to do something today. Chances are you spend a lot of time thinking about the things that aren’t working in your marriage, or perhaps all the things your spouse has or has not done that have hurt you or the marriage. The folly in that type of thinking is that it’s not going to help your marriage in anyway. Its actually counterproductive to what you really need to see happen.
You need a positive change to occur to bring back those feelings of love and happiness that seem to have left your marriage. My suggestion would be to begin with what you can change: your attitude. You can control your perspective, your point of view, and your thoughts. You are responsible for the way you choose to view your spouse, their actions, and your marriage. Therefore, I urge you to do something different today with your thoughts: be grateful. Take the day and spend it thinking back and being thankful of what we have in our spouse and our marriage.
When things are bad, all we can see are the problems in our marriage and our spouse. Our view becomes narrowly focused and begins to further deteriorate our marriage. How could it not? With only negative things filling our mind, things surely will only get worse. You need to move from anger and criticism to thankfulness. It’s difficult, yes, but it is a choice. Are you willing to make that choice to help save your marriage?
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