A Great Resource To Help Your Struggling Marriage

I was emailing Amy Waterman the other day talking about marriage. She was saying that the single biggest reason couples break up is due to poor communication. This poor communication then lead to a whole bunch of other problems like loss of closeness, conflict and the feeling of not being in love anymore. For those of you who don't know Amy Waterman, she is the author of Save My Marriage Today. This is an EXCELLENT course!

She showed me the course she has put together on marriage counseling and marriage saving strategies and I was very impressed! I had a good look over Save My Marriage Today and I was very glad that someone has finally come up with a guide that covers all the fundamental issues of that arise during married life.

So many couples break up over issues that could have been resolved if they had only opened the lines of communication and worked towards a solution. Some couples couldn’t work towards a solution, and some wanted to, but didn’t know how.

Amy's style helps couples, both young and old, repair their relationship problems and re ignite the spark that once existed before it is too late. Its quite normal for a marriage to go through cycles, and arguments will happen from time to time. Its how you deal with those arguments and disagreements that dictates the health of your relationship. Amy shows you the appropriate way to raise issues and deal with them in a way that takes into account the feelings of both parties and delivers an outcome that avoids the stress, pain and emotional trauma of marital failure.

She deals with topics such as:

• Tips on how to rescue your marriage
• How to reintroduce passion
• How to repair your marriage after an affair
• Self assessment
• Gestures that are more important than words
  And much more...........

Many people split from their husbands and wives and go through enormous trauma all because they are unable to deal with a problem that ultimately could have saved them a lot of heartache, as well as money. Its just crazy!

Amy makes it easy for you by identifying things that could jeopardize your marriage and showing you how to avoid them. If you are serious about saving your marriage and making your love endure, you should learn all you can about communication, commitment, patience, and beliefs that will make your relationship stronger.

In addition to this she has included a free email consultation so that customers can discuss their specific problems with her. WOW! That is huge because you can literally talk with a trained expert, about YOUR specific problems, right from home. I was really surprised she was willing to do this.

I really do believe Amy is onto a good thing here, and she really wants to help. The techniques she reveals are thought provoking and have been proven over and over to help save marriages. I found there was something for everyone in this course, no matter how long you have been married or how strong your union is.

I was very impressed when I finished checking out Save My Marriage Today and have recommended it to everyone who wants more happiness and fulfillment out of their life and marriage. I would encourage you to look for yourself and do something today to Save Your Marriage before it is too late!

You can take control of your happiness. For better or for worse, Amy and Save My Marriage Today can help your marriage.

With a smile~ Tina

5 Things to Start Doing Today to Improve Your Marriage

Divorce is not mandatory, it is optional! This means the choices YOU make TODAY can have an impact on your marriage. There are real solutions to your marriage problems and all you need to do is get started today. I would like to briefly share 5 steps to help your marriage right now. They are not complicated, but they can be very hard to do.

Before we get started, it is important that you have accepted that there is a problem in your relationship. If the talk of divorce has come up, do not turn your back on it and hope it goes away. It most likely will not. Instead, accept this threat, and resolve to fight against it, to save your marriage. Make the commitment to do the hard work necessary to restore your relationship.

Another important part of helping your marriage is assessing its health. If you can sit down and determine what the signs are that are pointing towards divorce, you can identify exactly where you need to start working. Some of those signs could be a total lack of communication, constant conflict that never seems resolved, isolation from your partner as well as a lack of physical or emotional intimacy. Once you have defined the signs, you can begin to work on repairing the damage. This is the hardest part.

Here is a brief list of things you can get started on right away to help strengthen the weakened bonds of your marriage:
1. Open the doors for communication and take time to listen to your spouse.
2. Stop complaining and start complimenting
3. Look for all things positive and focus on those. This is about a new perspective.
4. Create opportunities for fun together. Laughing together is so good.
5. Seek help from a trained relationship expert.

Although this list is short, and rather basic, I will be expanding upon it further in my next article. For now, take time to really ponder those five things. Come up with a plan of how you can implement those suggestions in your marriage today.

Commitment Keeps A Marriage Together - Not Happiness

Many studies have been done on love, happiness, divorce and commitment in marriage and the findings may surprise you. Michael P. Johnson, a professor of sociology at Penn State, found that there are three things that keep a person in a marriage. It is a combination of personal, moral and structural commitments:
· people want to stay
· they feel they ought to stay
· they have to stay
If you look at those three things, they are all based on commitment, rather than happiness. Commitment is a choice. Happiness is a feeling, and we all know that feelings come and go. It is commitment to things that helps us ride out storms, to keep going even when it is hard, not feelings. Feelings can throw our thoughts all over the place, and make us behave irrationally. Truly, a happy marriage needs to be based on commitment.
Other studies have proven that unhappy periods in a marriage are not indicative of future unhappiness. In fact, one study showed that 86% of unhappily married couples who stayed with their marriage, rather than choosing divorce, were happier five years later. Most of them reported being "quite" or "very happy." Now that has to inspire you to stick with things through the hard times.
If you and your spouse are not happy, and are thinking about divorce, perhaps spending some time talking about commitment versus feelings will help. Remember, you may fight, disagree and argue, but know that those things do not have to determine your satisfaction or happiness with your life. Rather, your willingness to stay committed to each other, to do what you said you would do in your wedding vows, will determine your true happiness. Fight for your marriage; it is worth saving.