3 Basic Necessities of Marriage

Relationships are hard. Friendships, family bonds, and marital relationships all require work. Heck, even the interactions we have with perfect strangers can be trying at times. If we can incorporate into our attitudes, the three basic actions listed below, our relationships would improve dramatically.

A friend once said that he believes there is an “inner jerk” living in all of us that tries to come out every day. It is our job to keep the inner jerk down! Otherwise, we may find ourselves facing the consequences of the actions that came from our “inner jerk”. If you find yourself in this situation right now, I would like to challenge you to adopt these actions as part of your daily attitude in your marriage. I think these three basic actions are necessary for all relationships, but especially marriage.

Necessity #1- Humility
A good description of humility is “an unassuming nature.” Wow, that says it all! Do not make assumptions about your spouse’s behavior. Give them the benefit of the doubt and find out what they really meant. This means you must be willing to let go of your pride. When you feel hurt, pride rears its ugly head, and in a big way. Pride promotes disunity. It causes a divide. Choose humility first. I know, easier said than done, but ponder it.

Necessity #2- Gentleness
I think the description of this says it all: mildness, calmness, tenderness or kindness. The opposite of this is roughness, or forcefulness. Not a good way to interact with your spouse, and sure to cause problems. Instead, be gentle, and meek, not self assertive, rude or harsh. Show restraint. Keep your emotions under control. Again, I understand this is much easier said than done, but ponder it.

Necessity #3- Patience
When I talk about patience, I am really talking about endurance, staying power, lack of complaint, fortitude. When you perceive that your spouse has harmed or wronged you, don’t just strike back. If you do this, it is as if you are hitting, smacking, thumping or walloping them. I know that if someone did that to me, anger would be the inevitable result. Therefore, if you strike back, you simply escalate the situation to a level that is much harder to come back from. Instead, try bearing with your spouse, in love.

In conclusion, implementing these actions into your attitude will be a great start towards healing a hurting relationship. For more insight into helping your marriage, visit this site.

With a smile, Tina