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Difficult Marriage? Difficult Children Can Contribute to Marital Problems

Today I wanted to make a quick note about the fact that difficult children can added stress and tension to any family, and a marriage in crisis will feel the affects even more. Saving your marriage should be your top priority, and if a whining, temper tantrum throwing child is adding to the problems, you can get help that will make a significant change in their behavior....and quickly. Read more about The Dream Child Method here.

The DREAM CHILD METHOD to Stop Whining, Tantrums and More

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Communicating In Marriage - Conflict Between Husband and Wife

Are you and your spouse great communicators? If not, don't worry. Many couples are not, but communication skills are easily learned. You can start making changes today that will have a positive affect on your marriage.

Here are some things to thing about from Dr. Greg Smalley:
Good communication begins with good listening.

He outlines the four foundations of good communication:
1. Listening - By listening to your spouse, you communicate that they are a person of worth and what they say is important.

2. Understanding - You may have to paraphrase back to your spouse what you hear them saying so that you clearly understand what has been said: "What I just heard you say was%u2026"

3. Validating - Then your spouse can verify or correct until he is saying and you are hearing exactly what he means. You can affirm your spouse by understanding what is communicated and validating the communication.

4. Responding - At this point, you can decide how to respond to what your spouse has said.

This is just a brief sample of what you will learn in the Unlocking The Secrets of Marriage course, but a very effective way to make positive changes in your communication style.

Marriage - Commitment IS the Key You are Searching For

Does the title of this post sound too simple? Too hard? Not the answer you are looking for? If so, I understand where you are coming from. But...I feel very strongly that it is true. Commitment to the vows you made on your wedding day is the key to making your marriage last! Why? Because if you honor that commitment, you have no choice but to work out whatever the problems are. Read on, I hope to convince you of this.

What is the foundation of your marriage? What is the one thing that you center everything else on? Is it happiness? Compatibility? Good Times? All of those things are important in a marriage, but I can guarantee you that none of them will keep your marriage together.

Happy times come and go. This is a guarantee. Feelings come and go and often times we don’t have control over them. Same with compatibility. Conflicts are going to happen, even in the best of relationships. It’s how you handle the incompatibility that is going to make the difference. The one thing that you can control in all of this is you. You made a promise when you got married, and you can keep that promise. Commitment is the foundation you need to build everything else from.

Think about your wedding vows. When you said them, you most likely promised to stay together in sickness and health, in good times and bad, in prosperity etc…you made a commitment that covered pretty much all the ups and downs that life would throw your way. So what happened to that promise? If you are even considering a divorce, I want you to take a minute to just be still, and remember those vows. Remember them. They meant something to you then, and they should still mean something now.

Those wedding promises were your commitment to your marriage for life. Commitment is what will hold your marriage together. It is the key to making your relationship last, and avoid divorce. Commitment means you aren’t going to run when the troubles get too hard. Quite the contrary. Instead, it means you are dedicated to doing whatever it takes to work through them. It means you are willing to make changes in yourself, your attitude, your perspective and your actions, to save your marriage. It means you are devoted to your promises. You can do this.

Once you and your spouse can lay this foundation, so many more things will fall into place. A committed couple doesn’t thing about divorce, talk about divorce or even threaten it. Why? Because it simply isn’t an option. Hence, once you know that it isn’t a possibility, a whole new range of options will open up before the two of you….options to find a way to make things work; to get the help you need. Where there is a will, and a commitment, there is a way. You CAN save your marriage.

Is Your Marriage on the Rocks? It’s Time To Make a Change To Thankfulness

If your marriage is in a state of turmoil, and unhappiness seems to be the overriding feeling, then you need to do something today. Chances are you spend a lot of time thinking about the things that aren’t working in your marriage, or perhaps all the things your spouse has or has not done that have hurt you or the marriage. The folly in that type of thinking is that it’s not going to help your marriage in anyway. Its actually counterproductive to what you really need to see happen.

You need a positive change to occur to bring back those feelings of love and happiness that seem to have left your marriage. My suggestion would be to begin with what you can change: your attitude. You can control your perspective, your point of view, and your thoughts. You are responsible for the way you choose to view your spouse, their actions, and your marriage. Therefore, I urge you to do something different today with your thoughts: be grateful. Take the day and spend it thinking back and being thankful of what we have in our spouse and our marriage.

When things are bad, all we can see are the problems in our marriage and our spouse. Our view becomes narrowly focused and begins to further deteriorate our marriage. How could it not? With only negative things filling our mind, things surely will only get worse. You need to move from anger and criticism to thankfulness. It’s difficult, yes, but it is a choice. Are you willing to make that choice to help save your marriage?

Two Emotions that Erode the Intimacy in Your Marriage

Today I want to briefly share my thoughts on two emotions that erode your relationship with your spouse. They are Anger and Resentment. The reason for this is simple: everyone get's angry, but when they don't resolve it, let it go and move on, resentment develops. At this point, the beginnings of a serious problem are starting to develop....like a weed, resentment can take over your relationship. So what is the answer here? Learning to deal with your anger quickly, and in a positive way to keep resentment from taking root.

A great place to start is to recognize that most anger in relationships is really just a by-product of the other person feeling hurt. We often use anger to mask that emotion. The tough thing about this is that if we really just expressed our true emotion of hurt, our spouse would probably be able to respond to it much better than they respond to anger.

So what can you do?
1. The next time you are angry, seek to understand the primary emotion behind the anger, and instead, express that.

2. The next time your spouse is angry try and figure out what it it that they may be hurt about and try to soothe those feelings.

3. Learn more about how you can work on your marriage with the Save My Marriage Today program. You will learn even more valuable insights than this, which will make significant changes in your marriage. It's a great program.

A Great Resource To Help Your Struggling Marriage

I was emailing Amy Waterman the other day talking about marriage. She was saying that the single biggest reason couples break up is due to poor communication. This poor communication then lead to a whole bunch of other problems like loss of closeness, conflict and the feeling of not being in love anymore. For those of you who don't know Amy Waterman, she is the author of Save My Marriage Today. This is an EXCELLENT course!

She showed me the course she has put together on marriage counseling and marriage saving strategies and I was very impressed! I had a good look over Save My Marriage Today and I was very glad that someone has finally come up with a guide that covers all the fundamental issues of that arise during married life.

So many couples break up over issues that could have been resolved if they had only opened the lines of communication and worked towards a solution. Some couples couldn’t work towards a solution, and some wanted to, but didn’t know how.

Amy's style helps couples, both young and old, repair their relationship problems and re ignite the spark that once existed before it is too late. Its quite normal for a marriage to go through cycles, and arguments will happen from time to time. Its how you deal with those arguments and disagreements that dictates the health of your relationship. Amy shows you the appropriate way to raise issues and deal with them in a way that takes into account the feelings of both parties and delivers an outcome that avoids the stress, pain and emotional trauma of marital failure.

She deals with topics such as:

• Tips on how to rescue your marriage
• How to reintroduce passion
• How to repair your marriage after an affair
• Self assessment
• Gestures that are more important than words
  And much more...........

Many people split from their husbands and wives and go through enormous trauma all because they are unable to deal with a problem that ultimately could have saved them a lot of heartache, as well as money. Its just crazy!

Amy makes it easy for you by identifying things that could jeopardize your marriage and showing you how to avoid them. If you are serious about saving your marriage and making your love endure, you should learn all you can about communication, commitment, patience, and beliefs that will make your relationship stronger.

In addition to this she has included a free email consultation so that customers can discuss their specific problems with her. WOW! That is huge because you can literally talk with a trained expert, about YOUR specific problems, right from home. I was really surprised she was willing to do this.

I really do believe Amy is onto a good thing here, and she really wants to help. The techniques she reveals are thought provoking and have been proven over and over to help save marriages. I found there was something for everyone in this course, no matter how long you have been married or how strong your union is.

I was very impressed when I finished checking out Save My Marriage Today and have recommended it to everyone who wants more happiness and fulfillment out of their life and marriage. I would encourage you to look for yourself and do something today to Save Your Marriage before it is too late!

You can take control of your happiness. For better or for worse, Amy and Save My Marriage Today can help your marriage.

With a smile~ Tina